I remember reading her reflection entries for the first time and being so impressed with what she wrote and deeply relating to it. I think she really captured the sentiment that many of us have going into motherhood — that it will and/or should come naturally and effortlessly. Then when we struggle in motherhood, we wonder if something is wrong with us.

I also love that she highlighted the pressure to “make sure you’re enjoying your kids enough”, and what life after raising kids will look like. We often put everything into motherhood and without realizing it, it becomes our whole identity. However, I truly believe that mothers are so much more than “just a mom.” Personally it has been so important for me to carve out space and time for things that I love outside of my motherhood (like this project!) And as Sarah mentions, one day our kids will leave home and we will have to continue to re-discover more of who we are outside of motherhood.

“Growing up I had a strong desire to be a wife and mother… As I aged, finding a life partner did not happen for me and I grieved the loss of the life I thought I would have.” — Allison

“I always say I was a much better mother when my children were imaginary. I thought I'd get to snuggle all day long and that toddlers would sit perfectly still. It's much harder when you're actually in the trenches and experiencing it live…

A big thing mothering has taught me is to have patience in the rudimentary and routine things. “ — Aubrey

“A rollercoaster came about as I entered the world of infertility. It has opened my heart wide with empathy and perspective. It has brought me to my lowest lows and darkest of nights. It has also brought me my closest friends and most tender moments.” — Ashley